Every day we are being sold happiness in a large number of different forms. Whether it is in food, a TV show, alcohol or an upcoming holiday. What companies have to sell is sure to make you happy. But with happiness there is not one-size-fits-all solution. We all want to be happy but trying to have more happiness in our lives is like trying to get to sleep when you have insomnia, it just doesn’t work like that.
The key to being happy is to stop trying so hard to achieve happiness. Instead of spending all your time dwelling on whether or not you are truly happy, you should instead take action and do something that may (or may not) make you happy. You can go out and try something new, eat at a different restaurant, try to meet new people, go to new and exciting places, the bottom line here is to push yourself beyond your comfort zone and see what happens.
The end result may not always make you feel happy, but you will be left with experiences, some of which may be interesting or funny. Possibly even adventurous. You may end finding out that you are much happier once you stop thinking about it and start doing something. Here are a few more tips on how to embrace your life in a way that is sure to make you happy.
Take the Word Out of Your Vocabulary
Any time that a word gets overused it tends to lose its initial meaning and can become confusing or boring. So you should start by taking “happy” out of your vocabulary. If you have a need to use the word, try something different instead such as “content” “Enjoyment” “Laughter” “Peace of Mind” or “Blessed” The thesaurus is your friend.
Try Living in the Present Instead of the Past
When all of our focus is on our past mistakes we tend to get stuck in the past and are left feeling miserable. Many people want to hold on to their past regrets but still want to experience joy in their life. It doesn’t work that way. Let go of all the things that hold you back and never look into the future with worry or doubt. Think about enjoying what is happening in your life right now. Be here now.
Decide What You Really Want to Do and Make Plans to Do It
Many times when people are searching for happiness they end up with what is known as the “shiny object syndrome”. This is what happens when you bounce from one exciting goal to another because they are looking for something or someone to take away all the negatively. Knowing what you truly want can help you to come up with something to focus on. Then you will be so wrapped up in this new idea that you will not have time to ponder or focus on the things that make you unhappy. If you want to start a new career, start looking into the training that you need. Want to move to a brand new city? Start looking into what you need to do in order to get it done.
Let Go of all Unrealistic Expectations Regarding Your Happiness
Everyone goes through difficult times, and it’s impossible for someone to be happy 24/7. If you are sick, having a hard time financially or just received some bad news about a loved one’s health condition then you have the right not to be happy. We have many other emotions that we much go through in order to remain sane and balanced. Happiness is only one of those emotions.
Don’t Group Your Happiness Together with Your Achievements
While it is great to feel good about your accomplishments in life. You should learn to separate your happiness from your achievements. Reaching your goals can help to give your mood a boost but if you happen to fail to reach a goal from time to time (and it will happen) you will start to feel regret or remorse. Don’t base your happiness on achieving your goals but instead enjoy the experiences that you learned along the way.
Separate Yourself from Things that Prevent Happiness
If there is something or someone in your life that is keeping you from being happy, you need to get away from that thing or person. It can be very hard to switch jobs or stop talking to a family member for example, but toxic relationships and unhealthy habits all need to go before you will be able to experience the level of happiness that you truly desire. Otherwise you may never be satisfied.