Being social with your co-workers can be an interesting situation. You are all brought together to work as a team, come up with creative ideas and represent an industry even though you started out as strangers. There are times when it can be difficult to keep the peace at the workplace because we have to work with people who may not share our same beliefs or morals. It is similar to the reality shows on TV where the producers try to find the most different individuals in the world and force them to get along in order to survive or win a grand prize.
While it can be similar to Survivor or The Real World, your job is not a TV show. And if you want to keep your job, you are going to have to learn ways to deal with the inconsistencies, annoyances and stressful moments that make each day at the office unique. Here are a few things that you can do to help keep the peace at the office.
Don’t be a Stressor for Other People
Peace will prevail when you decide to be part of the solution instead of part of the problem. When there is stress at the office, it is usually caused by the people in the office and not an external source. So you shouldn’t add to the stress by doing things that will provoke even more stress. This can include joining cliques, taking sides or stirring the pot when the tension has died down.
Examine Your Own Behavior and How it Affects Others
Poor behavior that causes discourse in your personal life can have the same effect at the workplace. Be honest with yourself and any tendency that you have that could be seen as negative to others such as being a perfectionist or criticizing others in public. Even if you are in a position of authority, these negative behaviors can diminish your productivity and harm the relationship that you have with your employees.
If you isolate yourself, no one will ever know how much you could truly contribute to the group. If there is a lack of communication in the office, people are often left feeling neglected and ignored. Don’t use gossip or complaints as your only form of communication, that is just a form of venting. Learn how to be a good listener and find out what your co-workers are interested in outside the workplace.
The higher up you are on the corporate ladder, the more important it is for you to be trusted by others in the workplace. Trust can be established by following through on your decisions, keeping your word and not choosing favorites. You can also gain more trust by taking responsibility for your own mistakes instead of blaming others.
Be Conscious of the Needs of Others
While there are no two people who are exactly alike, we all share many common needs. Along with the need to feel safe and secure in any situation, especially at the workplace. Be aware that all people at the office need the chance the accomplish their goals and be rewarded fairly. They all need to be heard and valued for their input.
Turn Empathy into Bonding
It is natural to sympathize with others when they are going through a difficult time, but it is very common for us to shy away from empathy in the workplace. Perhaps it is because by doing so, we manage to create an emotional bond with someone else. It doesn’t have to be just during the difficult times in life. You can show empathy when others are experiencing joy as well. And you don’t have to be afraid that this will entangle you in someone’s else’s personal issues, just be clear and set boundaries in order to protect yourself from additional stress.
Forming bonds inside the workplace is a delicate matter, and it is important to understand that sexual undertones are unwelcome. So it is only natural that co-workers often are reluctant to treat others with personal understanding. But by bonding with someone on a safe level, such as appreciating their work or encouraging them to tell you their creative ideas, you will be able to establish a trust and allow the bond between you to grow stronger, naturally.
Be the Change
The famous saying by Gandhi “Be the change you wish to see in the world” is more than just a cool tattoo idea, it is something that can apply to every aspect of your life. It can be impossible to attempt to change others, but if you change your own habits and way of thinking, you will be able to exemplify the change that you want to see happen. The other people who want to change will be attracted to you, and if enough people come together, a positive movement will be created.